Self-awareness: pop culture’s “get out of jail” card

If you don’t follow podcasts or critically acclaimed basic-cable comedies, you might have missed one of the more remarkable pop-culture developments of the past year. It’s not quite on par with dogs and cats putting aside their differences and creating a new pet super-race, or Dr. Dre finally putting out the perhaps-best-left-unreleased Detox. But it’s close. Thanks to some assistance from two unlikely sources, Dane Cook has evolved from being the living embodiment of detestable mediocrity in comedy into something resembling a sympathetic, even likeable figure.
There’s a decent chance you thought that already. You might even be a Dane Cook fan; the guy does have millions of them, judging by his album sales and the arenas he packs throughout the country, though I’ve never met a single one. But in the kingdom of comedy nerddom—a small territory with outsized influence, where strangeness-for-strangeness’ sake and deep, dark psychological dysfunction are guiding principles—Dane Cook has long resided somewhere between “children’s birthday-party magician” and “rodeo clown” on the coolness scale. But that changed at least a little in the wake of Cook’s June 2010 appearance on Marc Maron’s popular WTF podcast, and on Louis C.K.’s FX series Louie last week.
In both cases, Cook stood toe-to-toe with respected “comic’s comics” and responded to old charges that he’s a joke-stealer specifically, and an all-around d-bag generally. On Maron’s show, he talked candidly about feeling out-of-step with his fellow comedians practically from the beginning of his career as a sober, relatively well-adjusted, and preternaturally upbeat person. He admitted to being standoffish with many of his peers early on (including Maron), but only because he felt shy and uncomfortable around them. (Which, given Maron’s intensity, is understandable.) But he also (rightly) pointed out that Maron isn’t really in a position to understand him, as he’s achieved a level of fame as a stand-up that’s known only to the Steve Martins and Chris Rocks of the world.
Most importantly, Cook strongly denied stealing jokes (including three bits from C.K.), making a convincing case for his record of developing his own material over the course of nearly 20 years in the business, which—no matter your opinion of that material—seems irrefutable.
Speaking as someone who went into the podcast loving Marc Maron and despising Dane Cook, I was surprised by my own sympathy for Cook whenever Maron’s questioning occasionally came off as patronizing or even insulting. (A bit where Maron mocks Cook for accusing another comedian of stealing his “essence” goes on way too long, given Cook’s affable demeanor and reasonable-ish explanation.) By the end, I actually found myself liking this guy.
How could this happen? It’s not like Cook was suddenly funnier—he just became a lot easier to empathize with. Cook’s awareness of how people perceive him and his willingness to address it with a fair amount of eloquence and more than a little wounded sensitivity worked like hate-disinfectant on me. Cook was still the same, somewhat hacky, bro-friendly comedian, but the feelings his comedy and persona used to fill me with had been eradicated.
On Louie, Cook played a version of “Dane Cook” pretty much identical to the Dane Cook on Maron’s podcast. In the episode, C.K. comes to Cook for help getting his daughter Lady Gaga tickets, because Gaga and Cook share a promoter, and Cook knows Gaga personally. (According to Louie, anyway, though that totally could be true in real life.) Stunned that C.K. would have the nerve to ask for a personal favor after leaving him twisting in the wind for years as an accused plagiarist, Cook unloads, taking out all the pent-up frustration and resentment that’s built up over being called the “sellout” while C.K. was the “good guy,” standing up for artistic integrity. “You’re full of shit,” says a fuming Cook, as a stunned C.K. affects a “deer-in-the-headlights” look.
Whether you agree with Cook or not—and I’m treating this scene as a real event and not as a work of fiction—this much can’t be denied: When it comes to recovering lost credibility in pop culture, nothing beats that kind of self-awareness. It’s the closest thing to a magic bullet, or in Cook’s case, a “get out of jail” card. (If anybody can claim to have his reputation locked up in pop-culture prison for the last several years, it’s Cook.) When you’re publicly self-aware, you’re essentially saying, “I’m a human being, not just a person on television or a photo in a magazine. I can hear what people are saying about me, and I’m trying to have some perspective on it.” It’s very difficult to continue to say mean things about a person like that.