Quick and dirty

I am a man who tends to ejaculate prematurely. Not all the time—but at least 50 percent of the time, I’m good for two to three minutes and then I really have to be careful. I’ve learned to manage it and work around it (stop if I’m too close and eat her out to give me some time to relax, etc.), but it’s still a pain in the ass. I have a theory about this: I am not circumcised. I know that circumcised cocks are more desensitized, as they tend to rub on everything all the time. Could my problem be related to the fact that for the first 20 years of my life, the head of my cock had never been in direct contact with anything? And if not, are there tricks that exist to help me with this problem?
Unexposed Nub Could Upset Timing

You’re already doing everything premature ejaculators are urged to do, UNCUT: You’re paying close attention to your arousal levels, you’re being careful not to rush past the point of no return (or past the point of “orgasmic inevitability”), you’re taking fuck breaks as needed and eating a little pussy (not recommended for gay premature ejaculators). Those are the “tricks that exist” to help guys like you, and it sounds like you’ve mastered them. And while the heads of circumcised cocks tend to be less sensitive, UNCUT, studies of men circumcised in adulthood have found no link between circumcision and premature ejaculation. Uncut guys are no more likely to have problems with premature ejaculation, and cut guys are no less likely.

You’re in luck: There is an app for married people who want to cheat on their partners—with or without their partners’ permission—and I’m pretty sure you’re already familiar with this particular app, NEWBY, as it’s been around for a while. It’s called “The Internet.” This app can direct you to websites for cheaters (Ashley Madison), websites for kinksters (FetLife), and regular dating websites where married people in open relationships are free to advertise for new partners (OkCupid).

A gay dude who fucks you once and refuses to fuck ever again isn’t that into fucking, isn’t that into you, or isn’t turned on by men he actually knows. Some gay men are aroused only by anonymous sex—you know, the kind of sex you two had on your first “date.” Some gay men overcome that sexual handicap, others don’t. If your “little brown prince” (erm) hasn’t managed to overcome it 10 years into this relationship, NOT, I doubt he ever will.

“They” can be used as a singular pronoun—Shakespeare did it—but if it makes you crazy, GGG, there’s a simple solution to your dilemma: “My friend Chris, who prefers gender-neutral pronouns, is going to the mall. I sure hope Chris has a good time.”

Your husband’s problem—your ex-husband’s problem—wasn’t porn. It was insensitivity. And cluelessness. And selfishness. But for the record: It is not unreasonable to ask your partner to save the porn for “alone time,” PORN, and there’s no excuse for cruelty and inconsideration—about porn or anything else. But some couples do manage to incorporate porn into their “together time,” as the next letter demonstrates…

Thanks for sharing, RARE.