You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah review: A teen movie charmer
Adam Sandler and daughter Sunny Sandler lead a talented cast on a pleasant coming-of-age journey

Good teen comedies work because of their ability to capture, with empathy and warmth, the whirlwind that is being a teenager. It’s not just that everything is moving fast, changing constantly, and all burdened with the liminal force that is transitioning from childhood to adulthood. It’s that all of that is happening and everything feels like the Most Important Thing all the time. There’s no sense of triage in your brain, no ability to place things in the perspective that comes with aging and letting go of certain childhood visions of what your future is supposed to be. If you’re able to convey that particular emotional maelstrom, there’s a good chance your teen comedy will be not just funny, but moving.
You Are So Not Invited To My Bat Mitzvah, the new coming-of-age comedy from Adam Sandler’s Happy Madison Productions, starts things off right by proving that it can nail that sense of emotional teen chaos. Based on Fiona Rosenbloom’s book of the same name, and starring Sandler and two of his real-life daughters, it’s a film that immediately creates a sense of warmth and inviting charm that allows us into the lives of the teenagers at its core, then proceeds to spectacularly mess those lives up in ways both hilarious and devastating. It might not be destined to join the ranks of teen comedy masterpieces, but in the short term, its ability to nail the right balance of emotional and comedic unpredictability makes it a very pleasant journey, and a must-see for teen movie aficionados.
The bat mitzvah of the title belongs to Stacy Friedman (Sunny Sandler), an adolescent girl who’s spent her life surrounded by her family’s Jewish culture, and a constant stream of elaborate, expensive bar and bat mitzvahs. Stacy’s been planning her own elaborate bat mitzvah for years, no matter how much her parents (Adam Sandler and Idina Menzel) encourage her to lower her expectations, because she sees it as a true gateway not just to adulthood, but to defining herself forever. Stacy’s best friend Lydia (Samantha Lorraine) shares her aspirations for bat mitzvah glory, and the two are determined to make each other’s big day the best event possible.
Unfortunately, Lydia also apparently shares Stacy’s crush on Andy Goldfarb (Dylan Hoffman), the cutest and coolest boy either of them knows, and Andy’s apparently got eyes for Lydia, not Stacy. As Stacy’s life, and best friendship as she knows it, unravels, she has to try to figure out who she really is and what she really wants, all while navigating the typical awkwardness of everyday Hebrew School adolescence.